Woof Thai:
I don't know if the following applies in your case or not, but I do know that many people put alot of pressure on themselves when they first fight; there seems to be some sort of idea that it will answer the question they have had for so long about how good they are. This means if they perform at a level at less than they hoped, they then feel very badly about themselves and often become discouraged.
What I tell my cherry fighting students is this:
"Remember the first time you had sex. Were you any good at it? Have you gotten any better since?"
This usually brings a smile and helps keep things in perspective.
Woof,
Guro Crafty